2 co-sleeping deaths...

megaloo27

On our local news they just mentioned a story of a couple that have had two children die in the last two years because of co-sleeping. How could you co-sleep again after it caused the death of your first child? It wasn't SIDS, it was because they slept in the bed. So sad. 

CharlieTheUnicorn

She was on drugs (prescription or OTC, I don't know), which is a huge no no when co-sleeping. Their idiocy makes safe bed-sharing look bad. 

raefre

Links?

The other thing I hate is that people use that one story to make a point.  How many times have parents safely co-slept without incidence? 

People love sensationalism.  And this is just another sensationalized piece. (Mind you, I do not bed-share but I hate the way things are always sensationalized.)

caitie2002

I don't bedshare either, but my great grandma said she let all 3 of her babies sleep in the bed with her.  I told her he my LO sleeps in his own bed because I'm scared I will roll over on him or he will fall out of bed.  She said that wouldn't happen, and she has 3 grown children to prove it.  I could definitely see it happening with a person on drugs though....

wychets

So sad. However I think you mean bedsharing. We co-sleep meaning LO sleeps in our room in her own bed. We have bedshared and although I am not completely comfortable with it I do not mind it sometimes. I would never been under the influence of anything with LO around.

julesjarvais65

I bedshare with my LO. I position myself in my bed so that I can't really roll over (put my arm out, if I were to roll over my shoulder would be completely stretched out). And I wake up quite a bit too for like a second to check on her. The blanket doesn't go over her arms at all so she can't pull them up over her face. And she sleeps on the opposite side of my husband (he's a deeper sleeper than me).

I would never ever sleep with her if I was on any sort of drug though.

And I've always felt better with her in our bed than not for some reason.

megaloo27

The part that really bothered me is that it happened twice! Obviously she wasn't being safe about it the first time and it resulted in death. Why on earth would you do it again? I'm just so heartbroken for those babies. 

Huahine

megaloo27:

The part that really bothered me is that it happened twice! Obviously she wasn't being safe about it the first time and it resulted in death. Why on earth would you do it again? I'm just so heartbroken for those babies. 

Denial?  

I haven't read anything about this.  I don't know the facts of the cases.  Were both kids smothered?    If not, if the first baby just inexplicably stopped breathing, why would she think that it would happen a second time?  Because that would be rotten luck. 

namara5532

That is a hearbreaking story.  There's probably something more going on for the parents to make the same mistake twice to bedshare while on drugs.

I echo PPs about there is a way to safely bedshare and these stories do give it a bad rep.  I do it, and my mommy instincts keep me from rolling on him.  Even when I roll away from him and he squirms behind me, I instinctively check where he is before I roll back towards him.  I also sleep with him by myself since DH sleeps too deeply for it to be safe with him in bed too (we have an extra mattress), but the bed is pushed up flush against the wall on the side.

mrs.larry

megaloo27:

The part that really bothered me is that it happened twice! Obviously she wasn't being safe about it the first time and it resulted in death. Why on earth would you do it again? I'm just so heartbroken for those babies. 

this is probably harsh but if you're dumb enough to bedshare while on some sort of drug once? you're probably dumb enough to do it again. just saying.

we bedshare for part of the night on most nights. I'd never do it if I or my husband had taken anything that had any potential to make us sleep more heavily than normal. period.